It isn’t always easy to talk to the people you love about prostate cancer
But your family and friends can offer meaningful, ongoing support.
At first, some people who’ve been diagnosed with prostate cancer may want to deal
with the disease on their own. They may worry about others’ reactions, or the right
way to tell younger children. A family’s previous experiences with cancer may also
color the conversation.
There is no standard time or way to tell the people you care for about a prostate
cancer diagnosis. Still, it’s important to start a dialogue with your friends and
family and keep it open for several reasons. Certain family members may play a role
in managing treatment, dealing with insurance companies, and talking to employers
and others outside a person with cancer’s immediate circle.
With children, it’s especially good to set the tone.
Let them know how you are doing, what you need, and how they can help. Children
often take their cues from adults. This is especially important given
that children often overhear or guess at information they’ve not been told directly.
If you let your younger family members know how you’re feeling, they may offer you
comfort and support—and they may have an easier time dealing with your diagnosis
and treatment for themselves. Whatever happens, make sure your younger loved ones
know how much you love them, regardless of cancer.
The people you love can make your life easier.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from time to time. Often, your family and friends
will be more than happy to lend a hand.
On a practical level, talking with a few trusted members of your family or friends
can help them stay in the loop about your treatment plans—what medications you’re
taking, and when you’re taking them. Let your loved ones know how to get in touch
with your healthcare team, in case of an emergency. This information can also allow loved ones to help pick up your medication for you.
When you feel up to talking about it, try talking to your loved ones about how you’re
feeling, and how your treatment is affecting you. Talking about what’s going on
may help you feel better about it—and it may help your family as well.
Advice for caregivers